As with legal considerations, preferred terms and language can vary both geographically (for example, identity-first language is used by the British government, while person-first language is used by the US and Canadian governments) and by personal inclination. Some guides to inclusive language around disabilities and other intersections of diversity include:
The C4DISC Guidelines on Inclusive Language and Images in Scholarly Communications covers disability and ableist language, terms that are preferred and terms to avoid, and content framing.
The ACS Inclusivity Style Guide covers person-first and identity-first language, capitalization of health conditions, euphemisms related to disability, and a number of other disability-related topics.